Not all toxic people are cruel:)

“Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.” —Daniell Koepke #ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmm


10 pieces of advice you had give yourself 

1. People will always tell you that you’re either too much or not enough. Sometimes, they will be wrong. Sometimes, they will be right. That’s okay. You’re worth loving, anyway.

2. I know you like to save people, I know. But a burning house cannot keep anyone it harbors safe. In the end, all that will be left is the remnants of “you tried”. If they try to set fire to your foundations, kick them out. They will be better off, anyway. 

3. A lost cause is only that because no one has tried hard enough to find it, not because it is not worth saving. Remember that if you ever become one. 

4. That feeling of emptiness you have really is temporary. I know you know it like the back of your hand, but one day it will be a stranger that you will barely recognize if it ever says hello again. 

5. Anne with an ‘e’ taught you that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet. But, when tomorrow comes, and mistakes are everywhere, it’s important to remember that you are not the only one making them. 

6. They say that if it won’t matter in a year, don’t worry about it. You have felt guilty and overemotional so many times for disobeying that rule. Don’t. You are just living in the present and feeling all of it. 

7. Patience. Something will come eventually, even if it’s not what you asked for. Patience. 

8. Stand up for those who laid down when you needed someone the most. Teach them kindness – someone else may reap the benefits, and life isn’t always about you. Remember that no one ever taught them to be kind, and they must have felt just as lonely as you.

9. Life is not always what you make of it. Sometimes others change it for the worse, or the better, but life is how you live it. 

10. There is an endless seam of strength in you that will last your entire lifetime. The deeper you must dig, the more it will hurt, and the stronger you will be.